United States of America
Lieutenant Colonel Stephen Neil Hyland Jr. served the Office of the Deputy Chief of Staff for Personnel, the Pentagon. Stephen served in Gulf War, and during the years of the Cold War. Stephen was 46 years old.
Biography
Lieutenant Colonel, United States Army, working on personnel at the Pentagon. October would have been his twenty-first year in the service.
Twenty years before, he told a friend what he would like on his stone: born with the gift of laughter and a sense that the world was mad. Those who loved him say it fitted him exactly.
His father said you look back and all you think about is him laughing - that when he was in a room everybody gathered round him. He made everyone laugh and never told a joke.
He moved about as a child and the family settled in southern California, where he went to Damien High School. He took a degree in English literature at Notre Dame and was proud of it.
His house at Burke was a hub: the first piece of furniture to arrive when he moved in was a pool table, and a friend said it was not for himself, it was an attraction for friends. Weekends were barbecues and laughter. During the week he took the work seriously - his father said he was so elated to be working at the Pentagon.
His sister said simply: I am proud that Lieutenant Colonel Stephen Neil Hyland is my brother.
Twenty years before, he told a friend what he would like on his stone: born with the gift of laughter and a sense that the world was mad. Those who loved him say it fitted him exactly.
His father said you look back and all you think about is him laughing - that when he was in a room everybody gathered round him. He made everyone laugh and never told a joke.
He moved about as a child and the family settled in southern California, where he went to Damien High School. He took a degree in English literature at Notre Dame and was proud of it.
His house at Burke was a hub: the first piece of furniture to arrive when he moved in was a pool table, and a friend said it was not for himself, it was an attraction for friends. Weekends were barbecues and laughter. During the week he took the work seriously - his father said he was so elated to be working at the Pentagon.
His sister said simply: I am proud that Lieutenant Colonel Stephen Neil Hyland is my brother.
Keepsakes
Shared stone
Service Record
Conflicts
Awards & Decorations
1
For service and achievement
Memorials
National 9/11 Pentagon Memorial
Line 1954
Also Remembered
September 11, 2001 — The Pentagon
Burial Information
Cemetery
Arlington National Cemetery
Section
64
Grave
4649
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Stephen Neil Hyland
Lieutenant Colonel
U.S. Army
1980
Office of the Deputy Chief of Staff for Personnel, the Pentagon
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