@samjnungesser Published March 13, 2026, 9:00 a.m. ET Where to Stream: The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Powered by Reelgood More On: Mayci Neeley New Shows & Movies to Watch This Weekend: ‘The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives’ on Hulu + More Will There Be A ‘Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives’ Season 5? Everything We Know Stream It Or Skip It: ‘The Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives’ Season 4 On Hulu, Where MomTok Continues To Deliver Top-Tier Reality TV ‘The Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives’ Season 4 Ending Explained: Is Taylor Frankie Paul Pregnant? MomTok has spoken, and they, too, would like to see less of DadTok in The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives.
Just as some fans feared, DadTok—the husbands’ version of MomTok—was allowed ample screen time in the Hulu show’s fourth season. The men were given confessional interviews, solo scenes, a trip to Vanderpump Villa, and even opportunities to stir up some drama with the wives.
“I think they’re paying the editors, is what I think,” Mayci Neeley, MomTok’s unproblematic co-creator and hater of toxic men, said when she spoke to DECIDER via Zoom. “I think they’re slipping them some cash, because why are they so prevalent?”
During our chat with Mayci and Mikayla Matthews, the best friends claimed to know who from DadTok “talks to the lawyers” about getting more screen time. While they did not name names, they did say it was neither of their husbands, Jacob Neeley or Jace Terry.
In Season 4, Jordan Ngatikaura, husband of Jessi Draper and self-proclaimed “founder of DadTok,” went from quiet side character to full-blown menace. He told the women about Dakota Mortensen’s sexcapades at Vanderpump Villa, knowing it would get a rise out of Taylor Frankie Paul, tried to stir the pot in Layla Taylor‘s new relationship with Mason McWhorter by doubting they would last, and even started his own game of Truth Box, which MomTok did first in the show’s debut season.
Ngaitkaura, however, wasn’t the only DadTok member who was clamoring for more screen time: Zac Affleck ambushed Whitney Leavitt in the Season 4 finale when she thought she was meeting up with Jen Affleck to hash out their differences; Miranda Hope‘s ex-husband, Chase McWhorter, sparred with Ngatikaura at a solo DadTok dinner outing for breaking bro-code; and Mortensen’s inability to keep it in his pants arguably gave him more screen time than some of the MomTok women this season.
Trust and believe, we weren’t the only ones to clock the latter. Mayci, who has had it out for Mortensen since Season 1, told us, “I saw way too much of him on my screen. I’m sorry. I’m like, ‘Are we not reading comments?’ People said they didn’t want to see him as much. And then, here he is again.”
While Mayci and Matthews didn’t mind that DadTok was forming a closer bond, they took issue with some of the men starting to view their wives’ success as “competition.”
“I’m happy that they can have a friendship or whatever. Just don’t be toxic,” Mayci said. “You only have a platform because of us.”
Fortunately, the Told You So author wasn’t referring to her husband or Matthews’ husband. “I think we’re mostly speaking about some of the other men, to be honest,” she said. “But even with [Vanderpump] Villa, I told my husband to go. He was not going to go. And I was like, ‘Go have fun.’ I was two weeks postpartum.”
Matthews, on the other hand, did not allow Terry to join the others in England. “I told my husband, ‘Absolutely not. Your ass is staying home,'” she recalled. “I think it’s my worst nightmare to hang out in a villa with those men. And I imagine it would be his.”
In a separate Zoom call, Taylor and Hope agreed that they also “don’t love” how much attention DadTok is getting this season.
“I think this show is so empowering for women in so many ways, and I feel like sometimes we lose sight of that a little bit when we have these toxic men open their mouths about things they shouldn’t be opening their mouths about,” Taylor said. “I think, ultimately, what the people love to see from DadTok is when they’re supportive and they’re good partners. We don’t need to see you guys saying toxic comments about us women, because, ultimately, you wouldn’t be on the show if it wasn’t for the women. So, realize that and sit down.”
Hope, however, was optimistic that giving the men a chance to watch themselves back would put a “magnifying glass on the [internalized] misogyny” that often bubbles up, and give them the opportunity “figure out why they feel a certain way about certain things.”
While both Taylor and Hope were in favor of having less of DadTok in the show, they didn’t mind giving the husbands “some time” in front of cameras — especially if it “shows the dynamics” in their relationships with the women. Taylor pointed to the marriages of both Draper and Ngatikaura and Matthews and Terry as examples.
“Some of the guys are great. I hate to even just say DadTok as a whole,” Hope added, while Taylor clarified, “It’s mostly just Jordan and Dakota.”
The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Season 4 is currently streaming on Hulu.
