@samjnungesser Published March 12, 2026, 1:00 p.m. ET Where to Stream: The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Powered by Reelgood More On: Whitney Leavitt ‘The Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives’ Season 4 Ending Explained: Is Taylor Frankie Paul Pregnant? Did Demi Engemann Officially Quit ‘The Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives’? ‘The Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives’ Needs To Stop Trying To Make DadTok Happen When Is Season 4 Of ‘Secret Lives Of Mormon Wives’ Coming Out? ‘SLOMW’ New Season Details Revealed Ever since Whitney Leavitt and Jen Affleck joined Dancing with the Stars Season 34, fans of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives have been wondering how the competition would impact their friendship — and, now, nearly six months later, we finally have an answer.
While both women went into DWTS on what appeared to be great terms—Whitney literally offered Jen and her family a place to stay until they could find a rental of their own—things took a downward spiral the longer they each remained in the competition. By the end of Jen’s time on the show in Week 7, it was clear to audience members that their friendship was strained.
For instance, Whitney was accused of smiling when Jen got eliminated fromm the shwo, though Whitney has since said it was a look of “relief” that her name wasn’t called, followed by immediate shock that Jen was going home. To make matters worse (or, at the very least, more obvious), after the episode aired, Jen went on Instagram Live and told her followers that she would not be rooting for Whitney the rest of the way.
The MomTok drama was brought to the ballroom, and thanks to The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Season 4, we finally know why it all started. Keep reading for everything we know.
The drama started around Week 6 of Dancing with the Stars (for reference, Jen was voted out in Week 7, and Whitney was voted out in Week 10). According to Jen, she and Whitney had grown “more distant” since joining the competition show. She and her husband Zac claimed that Whitney would act like her “biggest fan” when the cameras were rolling, and hype her up in the background, but wouldn’t call or text her outside of the ballroom.
“I was expecting that our friendship was gonna grow through this process, but we haven’t talked to each other throughout Dancing with the Stars,” Jen said. “There hasn’t really been any relationship. We barely talk.”
When Zac told Jen the news that Whitney would be joining Chicago on Broadway as Roxie Hart, she had a shady reaction. “Dang. If she can’t be the main character of MomTok, she’ll be the main character of Broadway. It’s perfect,” Jen said with little amusement.
On the other hand, Whitney was telling her husband Conner about an insensitive comment Jen made to her when she was having an emotional day. Per the Broadway star, Jen walked in on her venting to her DWTS partner, Mark Ballas, and asked if she was upset because people were “talking shit” about her on social media. “I’m like, ‘That’s not why I’m crying, but thanks,'” Whitney recalled, sharing that it had been “emotionally taxing” to see the negative comments online, and that she would’ve rather Jen have been there for her as a friend.
Tensions reached their boiling point at the Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Season 4 photoshoot when Whitney finally told Jen she was going to be on Broadway. Jen said she had known for a week, which upset Whitney because Jen had never reached out to congratulate her. They ended up in a screaming match, during which Jen called out Whitney for remaining friends with Demi Engemann, never reaching out to her, and only looking out for herself and her image. Whitney, however, reminded Jen that she had texted her when she caught the flu on DWTS and never received a response, that she was the one sticking up for her in The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Season 2, and that, when they first moved out to Los Angeles, she made sure Jen wasn’t going to be uncomfortable with her friendship with Demi.
Following their blowout, Whitney sent Jen a voice memo, apologizing for yelling at her and wishing her luck in the ballroom. Unfortunately, Jen was eliminated from DWTS that week, after which she infamously went on Instagram Live and told her followers that she would not be rooting for Whitney, further perpetuating the online hate that both Whitney and Mark were already receiving. Speaking with her husband, Jen said she had “no interest” in being friends with Whitney, and felt like her apology was only to save her image in the competition. Zac, for his part, called Whitney a “parasite” and claimed she “ruined” Jen’s experience on DWTS.
When Whitney and Jen planned to meet up in Episode 10, Zac showed up instead, calling Whitney a “mean girl” and accusing her of sending a “bullshit” apology to his wife. He claimed Jen wanted the world to see Whitney’s “true colors” and that there were people who “deserved” to win the Mirrorball Trophy more than her. Whitney left the meeting in tears, with both her and Conner deciding they no longer wanted the Afflecks in their lives.
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